I tend to think that I can do anything I set my mind to. It's not a bad way to be but it can leave me not recognizing when to change course or let it go all together. Patience is not my virtue; If I can not push to make it happen then I get frustrated. Likewise, when something does not go according to plan (mine) I have a tough time adjusting. It's like have to go through all the emotional upheaval of the grieving process over a change of plans. Ridiculous. I need to be more flexible.
At the same time, some of the greatest things in life are not easy and require a lot of effort. Doing something/anything well, raising children, building a business, staying fit, maintaining relationships all require effort... a lot of effort.
|Starting a family was the most difficult thing I have done in life but also the most valued.|
The other side of the coin would be to avoid stress altogether; always bending out of its way. Also, not necessarily a bad way to be but one's life might not have the layers of richness without a little effort or some risk and challenge. You would be always at the mercy of the current and missing the beautiful spots along the river that might require some paddling to get to.
Some paths need to be let go. I have pushed for things before, harder than I should have, because I wanted it to be. When do you stop? Is it healthy for you and the people you love? Have you given it your best? Letting go can be necessary because the goal no longer fits into your overall life plan. Or maybe it was taken from you through no act of your own. I guess the lesson is in recognizing what you can and can not make happen. If you stay positive and open to possibilities, almost always a new door opens to things you might not have even thought would happen for you.
Some paths need to be fought for. Large or small, there are many additions to my life that I am so grateful I recognized and pushed to come to be. A tiny recent example; The Goats. I have been wanting goats for 2 years. Last Spring we opened and moved into the Art House. A major push at my home to get ready for the goats was not going to happen simultaneously. This year, I was determined to make it happen. We had a huge batch of bamboo dug out with a back hoe. I lined up my fence guy; there was much to be built. I found a nearby angora goat breeder. I visited her and her goats. I picked out two. I called my fence guy. I called my fence guy. I called my fence guy. He finally came here and there over 60 days. I got all the goat supplies. Fence guy built the hay feeder wrong. I made him make it right. I put up wire and gates. I moved old manure. I called my hay guy. I found a straw guy. I drove out to get the goats. Goats now live here and I sit with them every day admiring their beautiful beings.
|Glad I moved mountains for these guys.|
I don't have any answers here. Just like the yin and yang in most things in life, hard and soft must exist together and work together. I will work on recognizing which to apply. I am sure there is a great Kung Fu quote out there somewhere.
I told Dave I was struggling to write this post and he said, "You should let it go."
Everyone has a plan until they’ve been hit.
~ Joe Lewis